I talked to my SIL (who now works for my OB/GYN) and she asked her about the letter i sent and the 15 year old. I'm so glad she is there or i would just be wondering if she got the letter. She said the girl was already in her third trimester when she mentioned it to me. Her adoption plan is already set. But, she said there are girls all the time that come in with the same situation. She wants me to give my SIL a letter that can be given to any other potential BMs....with lawyers name, e-mail and an introduction of us....that sounds promising!
In the meantime - we will carry on and do the home studies etc....